Though I declared October a “No Complaint Month,” I boldly confess that I’ve had several complaints this month. It is not always easy to approach life with the “cup half-full” perspective. There were at least three days this month that I could not (read: would not) see the bright side of my circumstances. Being optimistic is sometimes easier said than done.
It is easy to say “when life hands you lemons make lemonade,” but realistically how many of us actually make the lemonade or choose to dance in the rain during the storm. These cliche quotes provide us with optimistic thinking, however change in thought does not always lead to change in behavior. When we experience tough times in life, it just seems easier to condemn, complain, and cry. Perhaps we should consider replacing those 3 C’s with the Big 3 C’s: compassion, commitment, and change.
When we are going through a difficult time in our lives, compassion provides us with a space to go through the “motions” without taking our frustrations out on those around us. We often forget about how our loved ones are affected by the struggles that we go through. We also have to be willing to stay committed to our journey. During times of struggle we often lose sight of our dreams and give in to doubt and frustration. Even in those moments, we must stay committed to our dreams. If you don’t like where you are in life right now, make a choice to change it. You can quit your job, leave that relationship, or start your new business. We always have the option to change the course of our life. The only thing in life that is constant is change.
If you’ve had some complaints this month, perhaps a stressful job or a difficult relationship, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for your complaints, frustrations, and anger. Focusing on the problem will never lead to a solution. Allow yourself to feel the frustration and then move pass it. Life is not just about dancing in the rain, but making the choice to grab an umbrella during the dance. Whatever “storm” you are facing it is only temporary, unless you choose to make it permanent. Wiser choices lead to smarter outcomes.