05 Oct The F Word
I used to be the “Queen of Grudges.” I would even tell people, “I bet I can go longer without speaking to you, than you can without speaking to me.” It was a badge of honor to be able to hold a grudge. In fact, I went an entire year without talking to a member of my immediate family. I’m not proud of this, but there was something on the inside of me that could not forgive, would not allow me to forgive.
Forgiveness is extremely important as you enter into this next phase of your journey. If we do not forgive it eats at us from the inside and becomes cancerous. There is power in saying “I’m sorry,” because even if you feel that the other person has wronged you in some way, there’s much that you can apologize for too.
Forgiveness is not one-sided. We all have something that we need to take responsibility for, even if it is just apologizing for holding on to our anger. Ask for forgiveness and watch the weight be lifted from your chest. Begin the work to heal yourself from the outside and then the healing process starts to work on the inside.
Search your heart and see if there is anyone that you need to forgive. Forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for you. It is for you to be able to release the anger and move on from it, instead of carrying it with you. Release it. Let it go. Forgive them and then forgive yourself. Your peace will follow.