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Hard to Be Different

Last night, BET premiered the 10th Annual Black Girls Rock Awards show. During her acceptance of the Rock Star award, Rihanna encouraged girls to love themselves and accept who they are. Oh, if it was so easy!? Most people don’t even have insight into who they are in order to love themselves. In fact, many people reject parts of themselves out of fear of rejection, ridicule, and shame. Instead we turn a blind eye to the not-so likable parts of ourselves in order to be accepted for someone that we are not. In order to fully love ourselves, we must first recognize and acknowledge the good with the bad.
Unfortunately, we all were born into a world that sends contradictory messages about what it means to be you. We say that it’s what’s on the inside that counts, but what really matters is on the outside. Whole groups of people are

Mind Your Own Business

Social media has created a platform for people to run amuck, proclaim their pettiness, display their ignorance, and showcase a lack of sensitivity and compassion. I wanted to break down the notion of “minding your own business,” especially with the increase of social media drama that has flooded the Internet. “Mind” is an esoteric concept of present and awareness of self. To “mind your own business” essentially means to be aware of self. To be aware of self means to focus on self yet we sometimes get away from this and focus on other people. Relationships are sustained through our ability to trust one another and maintain a sense of loyalty. Chaos and conflict in relationships stem from the lack of one’s capability to mind their own business.
As much as many of us would like to say that we don’t focus on other people’s business, the fact is that anytime

Baggage Check

Today I caught myself carrying around a huge amount of anxiety. Then the thought came to me, “why do I feel like this?” Had it been the unpleasant encounter with T-mobile customer service rep or rushing to make an appointment that I ultimately missed!? Whatever it was, I didn’t want to feel it anymore. It was taking up space in my chest and it was weighing me down. It was heavy. So I made a conscious decision to let it go. I took a deep breathe, accepted it, and continued along with my day. Right in that moment.
Had I not made the choice to accept what I was feeling in the moment, I’m sure my day would have been horrible, but instead I allowed the anxiety to move through my body as I continued to move through the day. This made me think about all the baggage that we carry

Free Yourself

In a previous post, The Road to Victory, I wrote about the continuous war that we experience along life’s journey. I did not mention in this post is that this war is an internal battle that takes place within our minds. These battles of the mind are not physical experiences, though it may often seem that way. We are presented with choices in a such a way that allows for us to make our own decisions (free will). Some people continue to make the same choices, taking the easy way out, doing what they’ve always done, and expect to get different results. These people have yet to recognize the instant of their behavior. They have not freed themselves from the bondage of the mind.
The mind is a very complex factor that we do not yet fully understand as human beings. Our minds play tricks on us, working for and against

Celebrating Your Victories

There are moments that we get so caught up in the process of life that we forget to celebrate the small victories that we experience along the journey. These moments serve as reminders of how far we’ve come and should be celebrated with gratitude and thanksgiving. When we are going through challenging experiences in life, it becomes hard to look pass our present experience to reflect on the victories that we’ve accomplished.
It becomes easier to get stuck in a repetitive cycle of victimization, recanting the old tales of struggle, hurt, and pain. We recant the tales of the battles that we’ve faced to affirm for ourselves that what we just experienced was meaningful and important to our journey; however rarely do we reflect in these moments of solitude to acknowledge the victories of the battles. These moments of victory give us strength to continue fighting the good fight long

Expect the Unexpected

We all may have expectations for how we would like our lives to unfold. We make plans, set goals, and move through life accordingly to the map that we’ve created for ourselves. For awhile, life obliges us and allows us to take control over the direction that we are headed. We continue through life like this for awhile and might even develop the belief that we are in control of the course of our life because of how smoothly the map leads us down the path.
Unfortunately life does not continue to follow our map so smoothly and we reach a point where our lives rear off course. Relationships change, people pass on, and the life we’ve envisioned for ourselves crumbles. In these moments, when things change, seemingly unexpectedly, they can be traumatic, painful, and depressing. We have no idea that these changes were “planned” all along because they were not

This is Love

Love is the greatest substance on this planet. It has the power to create, heal, and transform. It is by far the most powerful superpower that the human race will ever know. Though it is very much apart of our daily lives, many people do not have an understanding of the depth and magnitude of what love truly is. Love is more than the physical and emotional stimulation that we feel from another person when they have done something satisfying for us. Love goes far beyond anything that anyone can do for you.
Over time we’ve formed distorted views and opinions of love and have succumbed to the mediocre ideals of it. We meaninglessly use the term and reduce it’s power to a simple word instead of an experience. We have created a subjective perspective of it and as such our expression of love varies depending on various dynamics that affect

Elevating Exchanges

Every interaction that we enter into is an exchange of energy. Our bodies are human vessels that harness the energies that we come into contact with on a daily basis. When we share space with people, we unconsciously give them permission to infect us with their energy and vice versa. Energy attracts energy. We are drawn to people based on the vibrational frequency that their bodies emit. Interactions are created based on our attraction and/or repulsion to another person’s energy. Thus, we create exchanges of energies with everyone that we connect with.
When we enter into this exchange of energy one of three things can occur. First, there can be an mutual exchange of energy. In this interaction each person feels either refueled or depleted depending on the energy levels of the people involved in the exchange. If there are two positive energy people engaging in an interaction, both people will

I Am Everybody. Everybody Is Me.

In life, we all go through different trials and tribulations. Some of us may struggle with addictions, others with mental illnesses, or some with life’s daily stressors. Though the circumstances of life may appear to be different, our experiences of these circumstances are all the same. We often forget how our choices and behaviors could have led us down a different path than the one we are currently on. Instead we judge others for the choices that they’ve made and make statements that belittle and isolate them from our human experience.
We forget that we are not perfect and blameless. We judge people for living a life differently from our own without recognizing that we were one decision away from living the life of the person we are judging and looking down on. We once struggled with something in our lives, made a bad decision, or ended up in the