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Hard to Be Different

Last night, BET premiered the 10th Annual Black Girls Rock Awards show. During her acceptance of the Rock Star award, Rihanna encouraged girls to love themselves and accept who they are. Oh, if it was so easy!? Most people don’t even have insight into who they are in order to love themselves. In fact, many people reject parts of themselves out of fear of rejection, ridicule, and shame. Instead we turn a blind eye to the not-so likable parts of ourselves in order to be accepted for someone that we are not. In order to fully love ourselves, we must first recognize and acknowledge the good with the bad.
Unfortunately, we all were born into a world that sends contradictory messages about what it means to be you. We say that it’s what’s on the inside that counts, but what really matters is on the outside. Whole groups of people are

Work for the Soul

Over the past few months several people have talked to me about their grave dissatisfaction with their work (read: job). They were frustrated, fed-up, and just down-right sick and tired. Their jobs were no longer providing a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction that it did when they first started working there. Gone are the days of lunch break chats, friendly conversations, and positive vibes, now people are experiencing mandatory overtime, gossiping and backstabbing co-workers, and drained energy and productivity.
These people weren’t simply complaining about not liking their jobs, they were speaking to the harsh demands of their workplace environment without any incentive or appreciation for the work they were producing. This awakening is happening not only on an individual basis, but also collectively. As a human race, we are experiencing a collective shift in our consciousness and rising to the awareness of our soul’s purpose. No longer are we satisfied

Ego Check

The truth is sometimes hard for us to swallow. We all say that we want truth, but the moment that we enter into a space to receive it, our feelings are hurt and our egos are bruised. Though we would like to believe that we can handle the truth, our egos would much rather accept a lie. In fact, the ego will go as far as fabricating and altering the truth to make it acceptable for us to process and receive it. Ego knows no truth.
The ego is an aspect of our cognitive process and manifests itself through our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It is not a thing per se, but more of a mental state of being. It is manipulative, deceiving, and untrustworthy. The ego feels threatened and attacked when it does not or cannot have its’ way. It fights to be seen, heard, and feared. The ego believes

Seeds of Greatness

There will come a point in your life where you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. When this moment comes, if it hasn’t already, there will be nothing or no one that can hold you back from moving forward, walking towards greatness, and pushing pass being “good enough.” Though it may seem easier to reject the feelings of discontentment and dis-ease, in these moments we are no longer satisfied by a space that has not provided growth and stimulation.
Though comfortable, this territory now appears to be unrewarding and unchallenging. You may notice a change in your motivation to go to work, an ambivalence to hang out with your friends, or hopelessness of the fairy tale ending you’ve dreamed of with your partner. When the things in your life that once gave you great joy and pleasure become hardships and burdens, a breakthrough is beginning to manifest in

Onward & Upward!

There is a space in life that we all reach, sometimes several times throughout our life span, where we get tired, fed up, and exhausted. We face storms, endure pain, and it all seems too unbearable. Perhaps a passing of a loved one, the lost of a job, or the ending of a relationship, the traumatic experiences of life seem to make it impossible to remain committed to the journey of life. During these times we may feel depleted, beat down, and hopeless. We may even be incapable of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
We all will experience some hardships in our lives at some point. None of us are invisible and thus capable of escaping the harsh realities that comes along with this beautiful nightmare called life. Though we must face different challenges and obstacles along the way, we must remain dedicated and committed to our

I Am Everybody. Everybody Is Me.

In life, we all go through different trials and tribulations. Some of us may struggle with addictions, others with mental illnesses, or some with life’s daily stressors. Though the circumstances of life may appear to be different, our experiences of these circumstances are all the same. We often forget how our choices and behaviors could have led us down a different path than the one we are currently on. Instead we judge others for the choices that they’ve made and make statements that belittle and isolate them from our human experience.
We forget that we are not perfect and blameless. We judge people for living a life differently from our own without recognizing that we were one decision away from living the life of the person we are judging and looking down on. We once struggled with something in our lives, made a bad decision, or ended up in the

Stand Out

Imagine a world where you are the only person that held your beliefs and values. Everyone else is opposed to the fundamental values that you hold to be truth with such love, compassion, and kindness. People do not treat each other this way and are expected to compete with one another to advance their own individual needs. Can you imagine a world like this? Would you still hold true to your values although you would be viewed as an outsider and shunned for holding different beliefs?
Before you are too quick to answer that your values and beliefs are innate to who you are, recognize that most of what you hold to be true has been taught to you. If you born into a Christian family system, you did not celebrate and observe Ramadan or Hanukkah; most likely you and your family observed holidays like Christmas and Easter. The things that

Lights, Camera, Action!

It’s interesting how people seem to have an opinion on your life. They are busy observing, commenting, and conversing about everyone else’s life. Then they assume that other people are watching their lives. It’s this vicious cycle of ‘you are watching me while I’m watching you and I don’t care about you watching me, but really I’m watching you to see if you’re watching me.’  It is exhausting!
We have become consumed by what other people are doing in their lives instead of focusing on our own life. I wondered how much further along in our journey we would be if we spent more time starring in our own movie instead of watching someone else’s. We’ve all somehow become followers and in the midst there are no leaders. The “so-called” leaders in this world are consumed by materialism, narcissism, and self-indulgence.

Being a star does not mean that you lose sight

Moving Ahead

The world is screaming for us all to be
better; better parents, better partners, better students, and better friends. We are constantly
being told, both consciously and subconsciously, that we are not good enough, that
we have to work harder in order to be better. When
we do strive to better ourselves, we are reminded of who we used to be and how we will
never be good enough. Striving for better is a repetitious, never-ending cycle.
If we continue to base our growth on other people’s standards of who we are, we
will never be good enough.
People will always judge you, especially
based on your past. The past is a space where some people choose to live and that is where they will reside until they choose differently. All they ever
talk about are things that have already happened and no longer exist. These people
will attempt to make you feel guilty about your past experiences and will