parenthood

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Dear Daughter, I Don’t Have All the Answers

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Parenthood is hard. It’s hard as heck. I feel like not enough people are talking about just how hard it is being a parent. Ma, how the heck did you manage to make this look so easy?  I honor any parent that has made the decision to be fully present in a child’s life. It is a humbling experience. There are times that I think I am a bad mother, although I know I’m not. There are days that I feel really great about being a mother, too. Those are the days that I slay this motherhood thing! Breakfast on time, playtime, lunch, and nap all happening on schedule. I call those days ‘A’ days. I love those days because I am fully engaged and present with my daughter.
Then there are the days that I’m not fully present. Days that I’m exhausted and just want to sleep in because I

Fancy Me Not

I don’t take great care of myself. I spend time caring for everyone else, but don’t spend nearly as much time caring for myself. I know that I have to take care of myself before I can take care of anyone else, but that’s been hard to do. I am managing several roles in my life and it’s gotten hard to manage. As a result, my self-care has been at an all-time low. I was doing the bare minimum to keep up with it, but that has caught up with me. I started to feel overwhelmed and stressed out.
I was barely making it to yoga classes and there were weeks that my practice has been nonexistent. So last week I was determined to squeeze some self-care in by any means necessary. Midweek, I headed to the beach with my daughter and two women friends. It was my daughter’s first trip

Four-Year Old Teacher

I love children! They are absolutely the most exceptional beings on this planet. As adults, we often feel like we know more than children because we are older; however older does not always mean wiser. Children are precious gifts from God sent here to teach us life’s most valuable lessons and there is much for us to learn from them. Their way of being is contagious and inspiring. We ought to spend more time learning from children than we do teaching them.
I recall one evening, sitting in front of the television with my four year old cousin, watching cartoons and eating granola bars. Less than two minutes had passed before I was finished with mine. Three minutes later, she looked over at me and asked, “Where’s yours?”  to which I replied, “It’s gone. I finished it.” Her reply? “That was fast.” I learned a valuable lesson that day: to