maturity

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Be true!

Five years ago, one of
my closest friends invited me to be a guest blogger on  her site, Will Eye
Listen. Recently, thanks to Facebook’s “On This Day” feature, I took a
stroll down memory lane and revisited the piece that I wrote. I wanted to share
this post because although I was writing about A
Single Girl’s Guide to Dating 101, I was absolutely not living that life. While
innately I knew that I could not love someone else without first being capable
of loving myself, the sad truth is, my actions were not inline with my spirit. I
was not living this truth and instead was seeking outside validation for what
was ultimately an internal issue.
Many of us seek outside validation for our choices in order
to feel better about ourselves. Subconsciously, we already know whether our
behavior is morally “right” or “wrong,” yet we seek approval from others to
validate our actions. The choices that we make, good

The Metamorphosis

I’ve always been fascinated with butterflies. In fact, one of my very first tattoos is of two butterflies joined together by their wings. This tattoo has always served as a reminder of one of my life goals,
self-actualization: my two-selves becoming one, my greatest self. I found that this is the journey of life that we all are experiencing, the joining together of our two-selves (ego and spirit) to become our One True Self. I used to believe that this process was linear, starting off as a fetus (egg) growing in
our mother’s womb into a baby (caterpillar) and moving through life until we enter the chrysalis phase (adolescence through young adulthood), and then finally entering adulthood (butterflies), where we’ve reached our peak and earned the right to spread our wings and fly.
Well life is not a linear process; in fact, it is more circular and continuous, like that of a roller