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Much Love

Last week my womanfriend and I were having a conversation about friendships and how our friendship has changed over the years. We’ve been friends since college and although there were periods of time that we didn’t speak as much, we always picked back up right where we left off. Each time engaging in elevating and stimulating conversation, that reminded us just why we are friends. We are always there for each other and we know that we can rely on one another regardless of where we are in life. We recognized, though, that all friendships aren’t created equal.
There are some friendships that aren’t built to withstand the busy spells, mood swings, and distant phases that come along as a result of adulting in life. Sometimes distance is created in friendships in order to elevate the progression of both individuals. I know I wasn’t always able to hold space for friends when

Friends in Distance

I read an interesting article over the weekend entitled Friendship Goals. This article was very insightful and reminded me of the struggle I went through to find and secure meaningful and authentic friendships. As a child I had a best friend for every new grade. When I transferred school, I had a new best friend and sometimes multiple best friends simultaneously. My mother would always remind me that “not everyone is your best friend.” While I didn’t listen to my mother then, as I grew older I started to notice that she was right. Everyone wasn’t my best friend, in fact, not everyone was my friend.
A series of unfortunate events during grade school resulted in my best friends betraying me, hurting me, and lying about me. It was brutal and painful. As a young child losing all of your friends is probably one of the most devastating things to

Embrace Diversity

Friendship is one of the most valuable relationships you will have in your life. There’s a saying that your friends are the family that you get to choose. Our friends are sent here to deepening our understanding of life and relationships. The first real relationship that we form outside of our family system is with a friend. They teach us the importance of genuine connections.
As children we are filled with innocence and joy. We lose our innocence as we move through life. We begin to judge and condemn each other for our differences, instead of embracing each other for those differences as we did in our youth. We place unrealistic expectations on our friends and begin to want them to be more like us or we want to be more like them.

We used to love and accept each other for our raw, unfiltered, flawed selves, but as adults we isolate