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The Disconnection between Black Men and Women in America

While leaving the library one day last week, an older Black man stopped me on the sidewalk to ask, “Why do Black women believe that Black men aren’t emotional?” To which I replied, “Black men are emotional, you just choose to show it in a different way.”
This ignited a conversation about him being a 49-year old, thermal engineer with a business in New York. He went on to talk about how it had been hard for him to find a “good” Black woman because all “they” wanted was his money. He continued as he pulled out his car keys stating, “I have a Range Rover, my own house, and my own business, what more can a woman need?”
It was in that moment that I realized just why he hadn’t found a good woman regardless of race. He was more concerned with the materialistic things that he accrued in life so

The Therapist

One of my girlfriends recently suggested a show called The Therapist on Viceland. It’s a show about a licensed therapist, Dr. Siri Sat Nam Singh sitting down with musicians and culture influencers creating a space of healing. Even with the camera’s rolling, Dr. Singh exudes an aura of authenticity and humility. Each episode meeting the individuals where they are and effortlessly guiding them to their own vulnerability.
What I love most about this show is Dr. Singh’s delicacy with addressing the wounds of the individuals he’s sitting down with. He presents as very wise, even-keeled, and very attune to the person sitting before him. He mentions that he will not boost himself to seem bigger than he is, but instead will choose a path of empathy, knowing that he’s a human being talking to another human being. It’s beautiful to watch as Dr. Singh meets each person where they are without judgement.
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