Over the weekend my husband and I celebrated our daughter’s 1st birthday. It was also the first time I shared that I had a daughter on social media. When we found out that I was pregnant, we knew that we didn’t want to announce it on social media. At the time, we were already engaged and had not made a big announcement on social media. Only our closest friends and family knew of our engagement so of course our pregnancy wouldn’t be any different. I asked my mother how she announced her pregnancy to people when she was expecting with me.
I’m a very private person and didn’t want our good news to be shared with 1500+ people that I really didn’t know and that didn’t really know me. It was a personal, intimate, and very special moment in my life and I wanted to share the news with those that meant the most to me. So I did. I took a page out of my mother’s book, and “told people when I saw them.” I only told two people over the phone. It felt good to share in the joy of the moment with my loved ones each time I shared the news with them. Although some people were upset that I had kept a “secret,” they were all extremely happy and really supportive of my decision to not share my pregnancy on social media.
Some people believe that I live a life of secrecy because a lot of my personal life is not shared on Facebook or Instagram. There’s a difference between privacy and secrecy. I really enjoy and love seeing pictures of baby announcements, weddings, and baby showers, but that doesn’t mean that I’ll ever join the fold. It also does not mean that just because I’m choosing not to share that my life is a secret.
We live in a society where there’s a heightened desire to share everything but not everyone ascribes to this philosophy of thought. Social media is a reflection of real life and in real life there’s a spectrum of social people, ranging from really social to not at all. Whether you choose to share everything or nothing at all, it’s your choice. Having opinions about what someone chooses to share or not share via social media is petty. If we really want to know what’s going on in someone’s life, we should make a better effort to connection with people offline, instead of expecting it to be on social media in order for it to be real.