Much Love

26
Jun

Last week my womanfriend and I were having a conversation about friendships and how our friendship has changed over the years. We’ve been friends since college and although there were periods of time that we didn’t speak as much, we always picked back up right where we left off. Each time engaging in elevating and stimulating conversation, that reminded us just why we are friends. We are always there for each other and we know that we can rely on one another regardless of where we are in life. We recognized, though, that all friendships aren’t created equal.

There are some friendships that aren’t built to withstand the busy spells, mood swings, and distant phases that come along as a result of adulting in life. Sometimes distance is created in friendships in order to elevate the progression of both individuals. I know I wasn’t always able to hold space for friends when they were going through things. Maybe I was going through things too. Daily life stressors can be damaging and draining to anyone when they’re going through it. I’ve come to accept and honor this as a phase of life, with the understanding that all things come to an end, whether it be through the natural course of life or otherwise.

I’m grateful for my friendships that have ended. I know that I wasn’t a quality friend or perhaps we weren’t quality friends to each other. I’ve learned a lot about myself through these relationships though. I’ve learned to be more honest even when the truth hurts. I’ve learned that a good cry and a dope movie makes everything better. I’ve learned that everything has a season in life and that it’s okay to let go, even when it’s your friend.

I’m grateful for the time shared and memories created within these friendships though. Maybe one day our paths will cross again and we’ll pick back up where we left off, as if no time or space has passed between us. Or maybe that was the end and we’ve created all the memories we were set to make in this lifetime. Regardless of the outcome of our journeys, I wish you well. There’s an abundance of light in my heart for you. I pray God continues to shine light on you because no one deserves it more than you. I give thanks and honor for the time shared. I’m grateful and humbled by your friendship and love. Much Love.




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  1. Lois

    Life is about growth and acknowledging that we are not meant to stand still, even in friendships, as they change as we grow. I’ve come to the point in my life where I no longer hang on to friendships that no longer serve me or have a place in my life. I don’t mourn those relationships, I remember the good time fondly and move on. I respect the fact that some friendships change because the demands on people’s lives (mine and theirs), or because we’re in different places.

    I found that friends that I thought would be there for me were not there for me, during my storms. Hell, some of these people didn’t even offer to hold my umbrella for me. The realization of that hurt me but then it made me realize they probably weren’t my friends to begin with.

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