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What I Learned from Creating a MySpace Page

I wish someone had told me, all that coding I was doing back in the day, creating my MySpace page, would have lead to a lucrative career. I met have retained some of that knowledge and continued to learn it. Coding refers to computer languages used to create software, websites, and apps. There are tons of coding languages! Two years ago, when I started learning how to code, I started with CSS & HTML, two of the basic coding languages then moved to more complex languages like Ruby and Python.
I didn’t realize that as I was learning these coding languages, that I was essentially learning a different language. Through persistence and practice, I taught myself how to comprehend those funny looking codes that resemble arithmetic problems.I didn’t just learn how to code; I also learned how to navigate web development platforms like Wix, Tumblr, and WordPress. Now as a result,

The Disconnection between Black Men and Women in America

While leaving the library one day last week, an older Black man stopped me on the sidewalk to ask, “Why do Black women believe that Black men aren’t emotional?” To which I replied, “Black men are emotional, you just choose to show it in a different way.”
This ignited a conversation about him being a 49-year old, thermal engineer with a business in New York. He went on to talk about how it had been hard for him to find a “good” Black woman because all “they” wanted was his money. He continued as he pulled out his car keys stating, “I have a Range Rover, my own house, and my own business, what more can a woman need?”
It was in that moment that I realized just why he hadn’t found a good woman regardless of race. He was more concerned with the materialistic things that he accrued in life so

Mirror, Mirror

I realize that I make a whole lot of excuses for a whole bunch of things. The first time someone said this to me I became argumentative and defensive. I didn’t want to see myself as that person, when in fact, that’s who I am. I create excuses for my attitude; I justify my actions, and refuse to acknowledge this as an aspect of my personality. In moments like these, I refuse to see myself from any vantage point other than my own. This has been disastrous. I’ve created a one-dimensional view of my life, which has lead to stagnation and contentment.
There are an infinite amount of perspectives that exist in the world. Each individual has a unique perspective based on their reality and the things that they experience within that reality. For me to reject someone’s perspective is refusing to acknowledge the multitude of perceptions that exist within this universe. It

Surviving Marriage

All the statistics show that I should be divorced by now. And it’s not like I haven’t thought about it. I’m sure at some point every married person has thought about it or will think about it. If anyone says otherwise I would think they are lying. Marriage is hard work. It’s not like any other relationship I’ve ever been in. At 29 years old, entering into a marriage at 8 months pregnant was insane. On top of the emotional instability that comes along with pregnancy, it was a tumultuous time in our marriage, when it was supposed to be a time of bliss.
My husband and I were struggling with our new roles as mom and dad, when we had yet to solidify our roles as husband and wife. I also was not the nicest person during my pregnancy. It was a difficult transition and one that I wasn’t sure

I’m Listening God

God boxed me into a corner to beat me up four times this past week. On my way to yoga class I was procrastinating, knowing that I needed to go but wasn’t moving to prepare to go. Once I realized that I was going to be late, I was really upset about it. Until I realized that if I was going to be late, it was my fault for waiting until the last minute to get ready. I failed to prepare properly and as a result, I wasn’t going to get the outcome that I wanted because of my own poor judgment. When this came to me, I thought, “Okay, God, I hear you!”
That is what happened the first time around with the blog. I was procrastinating, thinking that something miraculous and profound would just come to me. I was waiting for the perfect moment to write, but refusing to

The Crown

Lately on social media there has been a lot of memes referencing Queens. A quick scroll through my timelines will reveal loads of #blackgirlmagic and #blackqueens professing that ‘Queens fix Queens crowns.” I despise this notion that as women there is something that needs to be fixed and that we can fix for one another. To fix implies that there is something that is broken or out of place. Why is it that when we go through daily life stressors that there’s a stigma that comes along with it. That we are made to feel weakened or less than for being vulnerable and going through real life shit.
Perhaps we need to change the way in which we look at vulnerability. When we experience difficult times in life, like raising a child alone or battling depression, these are just moments. We shouldn’t judge or label these moments because we all go

Re-birthday

Happy Relaunch Day!! I’m so excited to be back with an all new layout, fresh content, and much much more. It’s been over a year since I last updated the site with content and a lot has happened since then. I’ve become a mother, a wife, and an entrepreneur (more on all of that in the weeks to come). Since going through all of these major life transitions, I’ve grown a lot, learned some valuable lessons, and embodied myself more fully.
It was a scary, stressful, and depressing time while going through these transitions, but I survived. It would have been helpful for me to continue writing during that time, but I wasn’t willing to be vulnerable with my experiences. I was going through a normal transition of life, judging myself for experiencing natural emotions and was fearful that everyone else would judge me too. So I didn’t share what I

Work for the Soul

Over the past few months several people have talked to me about their grave dissatisfaction with their work (read: job). They were frustrated, fed-up, and just down-right sick and tired. Their jobs were no longer providing a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction that it did when they first started working there. Gone are the days of lunch break chats, friendly conversations, and positive vibes, now people are experiencing mandatory overtime, gossiping and backstabbing co-workers, and drained energy and productivity.
These people weren’t simply complaining about not liking their jobs, they were speaking to the harsh demands of their workplace environment without any incentive or appreciation for the work they were producing. This awakening is happening not only on an individual basis, but also collectively. As a human race, we are experiencing a collective shift in our consciousness and rising to the awareness of our soul’s purpose. No longer are we satisfied

The Lion & the Lamb

I want to be like Rihanna. Okay not really, but I would like to have her attitude. She has this unapologetic, no cares given (read: well you know) attitude that I admire. I used to have this same attitude during my late teens, early twenties; however I did not yet grasp the ability to finesse such a powerful attitude. Let me explain. I approached life with the heart of a lion, willing to tear down and eat up anything that entered into my Kingdom that wasn’t to my liking. I was fearless, brave, and unkind.
Unfortunately this extreme approach towards the world resulted in reckless behavior and broken relationships. I previously wrote about how I lost friends and even family all due to this “My World, My Way” attitude. I was selfish, narcissistic, and careless. It’s one thing to be a lion, but another to recognize that once you step on

Free Yourself

In a previous post, The Road to Victory, I wrote about the continuous war that we experience along life’s journey. I did not mention in this post is that this war is an internal battle that takes place within our minds. These battles of the mind are not physical experiences, though it may often seem that way. We are presented with choices in a such a way that allows for us to make our own decisions (free will). Some people continue to make the same choices, taking the easy way out, doing what they’ve always done, and expect to get different results. These people have yet to recognize the instant of their behavior. They have not freed themselves from the bondage of the mind.
The mind is a very complex factor that we do not yet fully understand as human beings. Our minds play tricks on us, working for and against