04 Nov Mommy Dearest
There’s no greater relationship than the one between a mother and her child. From the forming of an egg into a fetus, growing rapidly in your mother’s womb, this was the first relationship you experienced even before entering into this world. A mother’s voice is the first sound a fetus hears from the womb. It is perhaps the sweetest sound we know during our earlier stages of development. As we continue to grow and move through the different stages of development throughout our lifespan, the mother-child relationship changes.
Most of us experience the regretful phase between adolescence and young adulthood, where we rebel terribly against our mothers. During this phase we feel as though we know everything and our mothers know nothing. We proclaim that the times are different and that the lessons our mothers are attempting to teach us are ancient and outdated. That is, until we reach a level of maturity to recognize and accept that we, in fact, do not know anything at all.
Usually during young adulthood and the earlier stages of adulthood, we have an epiphany that our mothers were right about everything. Mother knew best when she told us about that terrible relationship with the guy we were madly in love with and about the friend that turned out to be untrustworthy. We realize that what we once viewed as our mother’s way of preventing us for growing up was just their way of protecting us.
Mothers have a great deal of insight to offer their children because of their own life experiences. They use this insight to prevent us from making the same mistakes that they did as children. Hold on to this relationship, heal it, bless it, and honor it, because there will come a time in life where you will have to become your mother’s ‘mother.’ You will have to carry for her, protect her, and take care of her. Regardless of the difficulties and conflicts that may exist between you and your mother, ask for forgiveness and work towards mending and healing this relationship. Your mother may not have been the best mother in the world, but recognize and accept that she has done the best that she could with what she’s had. Honor her because above all else, she’s given you the gift of life.